Saturday, April 9, 2011

My Supports


I do believe, as human beings we are all interconnected. Some may think that they have superpowers to accomplish all their duties, needs, and their goals on their own but in real life it is impossible. We have to understand the importance of our connections to other human beings; others could be older, younger, same age or even young children. They are all important in our daily lives. For me it is the same with the environment of where we spend our day, if that place is contaminated with bad thought, attitudes and clutter it does not support us to be better. My beliefs, culture and attitudes also matter for me to conquer my daily challenges.

When I take a deep look at my own self, the current challenge I recognize is keeping up with the school while attending to my responsibilities and duties as a parent, a wife, a daughter, a teacher, and a friend. The supports I have every day, every moment for my success, I see lots of influences and supports. I decided to go back to school after loosing two of my biggest supporters. They are my own father and my former supervisor. They both kept on encouraging me to go back to school and I lost both of them last year, three months apart due to cancer. It is still a very tough period of my life and I still do struggle with it. One coping mechanism I came up with was honoring them the best possible way I can. But going to school and keeping up with it is impossible if not for my husband’s support and understanding.  He is my biggest supporter regarding everything and anything I do. My mother and my sister are always checking on me: how things are going with school, work and generally life but they are thousands of miles away from me. My dear friends are also my supports, the pillars holding me together at all times.

When I think about work life, I consider my co-workers, the children in the classroom and their families as my supports. Among my co-workers I have my dear friends who are there for me in good as well as hard times. They are my other family. “The children” in the classroom are the ones who create the happiest place on earth at work. They are the reason why I go to work every day energized.  My energy for the day is my family and my children at work. It is hard for my friends to understand why I do not take time off once in a while. But for me it is not necessary.  The families of the children are also my supports; they are the ones who send the children to school everyday. They work with me; they understand the importance of what happens in the classroom. They keep the children in the school.

 I know without these supports in my life, it could take a whole different turn for me.  I do believe in supporting each other. My parents believed in me to let me follow my heart. They supported me on my choices of life while guiding through tough patches. They showed me a lot by example than giving commands and I try to continue the same. I try to make an impact on others lives by being a great support, it can be a few minutes of support to a total stranger at the grocery store or years of support to a family of a child in the classroom. I believe it matters.  



“I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug or just a friendly pat on the back” Maya Angelou

Saturday, March 26, 2011

              "My Connections to Play."

Quotes that I feel summarize what play represented for me in childhood.

“It is paradoxical that many educators and parents still differentiate between a time for learning and a time for play without seeing the vital connection between them.”
~ Leo Buscaglia (author, educator)

“Play is the highest form of research.”
 ~ Albert Einstein (scientist)

“Play gives children a chance to practice what they are learning…They have to play with what they know to be true in order to find out more, and then they can use what they learn in new forms of play.” ~
Fred Rogers (Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood)

“It is becoming increasingly clear through research on the brain, as well as in other areas of study, that childhood need play. Play acts as a forward feed mechanism into courageous, creative, rigorous thinking in adulthood.” ~
Tina Bruce (Professor, London Metropolitan University)

 Pictures of essential play items for my younger self.
                                   

Children playing a game of Cricket.
                                                

Running in the rice field






Swinging time in the fields.

How people supported play when I was younger and/or the role of play in my childhood.

When listening to the children talking about their electronic and technological toys that they play with, I feel that I was lucky to be in a developing country. I did not play with electronic or technological toys. I played with my sister, cousins and neighborhood children in the outdoors. Those were the days full of adventure and care free childhood. Looking at the children of today I feel sorry for them missing out on outdoor opportunities. Including my own, today’s children do not enjoy outdoors as I used to be at their age. I am still an outdoor person in my own way.  In the tropical island where I grew up, everyday was great temperature for out door expeditions. In the fields playing Cricket with boys or playing House with girls or going on an adventure through the rice fields with everyone; it was an everyday, after-homework event in my life.

I thank the adults of my younger days who believed in play. We had a curfew.  We used to check the shadow or surroundings to figure out the time, to return home. We knew well enough to not to break the curfew as the consequence was missing the fun the next day. At that time there was no fear of stranger danger. Everyone knew each other and everyone took care of each other’s children. “It takes a village to raise a child” (African proverb) was a practical matter in those days. The best hands-on learning of what we learned in school took place while we played. For me children learn through play was proven through my generation. It was not just hands on experience; it was life lessons and experiences as well.


My thoughts regarding the role of play throughout my life and the role of play throughout childhood and adulthood.
Looking back at my younger days, I truly believe that my parents and the adults in my life had expectations, dreams and hopes for their next generation but they were much more practical ones. They spent much more time with their next generation and tried their best to give them hands-on experiences on life. Technology was not advanced or easily accessible and that was a blessing in disguise for me. Raising children in the United States, I feel that my own children are missing on major life skills that gained through play. But at the same time when visiting back home I feel that my own nieces and nephews are missing on the same. For me the reason behind is the invasion of the technology that changed the world for better and for worst. With the world becoming a global village, east met the west through television; east fell in love with the ways of west without making any conscious decisions.

Today’s grown ups are adapting to the overwhelmingly busy lifestyles and spending money on materials without a conclusion. For me what matters the most for the children is not the presents, but the family being present for them. I do not believe that we have to go back to the Stone Age, but I wish there is a way for all of us to live life with “moderation” as the motto.
 Children having the opportunity to be outdoors with their families and friends ,and the schools having high expectations but still believing in the importance of age appropriate materials and value of play in young lives would be the best situations in my world. And most of all I believe that  we would be more compassionate towards each other than being competitive against each other. Technology has to be a tool to make life better but not the vehicle that take the humans away from precious human interactions.
My hope for the young with regards to play is giving them back what we have  taken away from them due to the over accelerated educational goals. Giving back the much needed love and care for the children of the global village and letting them grow up to be compassionate with each other with much more human interactions than the various machines that they have in their lives. Parents, educators, decision makers, policy makers and researchers working together and having a better understanding of what is age appropriate practice and why is it matter, and how to practice it through play and fun will be the way to go .             





Saturday, March 12, 2011

Relationship Reflection

I believe that the relationships and partnerships are important to every living, breathing human being. We are social creatures and need to have human interactions. That is a part of us from the birth. We come to this world with a cry and goes on communicating till we loose our last breath. For me personally, the relationships are precious. Growing up, everyone thought that I can even talk to a wall if I am alone and I believe that I am still the same. I value human interactions. I am not a much of a technological person, I enjoy face time with people. Relationships can be family, professional and personal for me. Especially, as a person who is living in a place where there are no other blood-relatives around, I take my relationships in my neighborhood, community, school district and the work place seriously. All of these relationships are priceless to me.


       Several people with whom I currently have positive relationships and/or partnerships.....
I am going to look at my relationships and partnerships beyond my immediate family or extended family as they all are overseas. I am paying attention to my personal and professional relationships.
My friendships at work are positive relationships as well as partnerships. They are my family away from home. They are always there for me. It is a bond and a trust between us than a workplace relationship. We do not have much time to interact with each other everyday though we are under the same roof. But we all know in our hearts that we are there for each other. We all take a moment to check on each other during our lunch break everyday, as communication among us matters to all of us. This same rule goes for the families. I do my best to greet any family I meet in the hallways of the building. It does not matter whether they are from my classroom or a different classroom. Face to face communication, with all the families of the classroom is not possible as most of the children use the school buses. Still, a note, news letters, and mostly the phone calls are some of my ways to keep the relationships healthy.
 My friendship with few families that I met through my involvement with local school district is an important relationship as well. . We are working together for the benefit of the children of the district. They are always there for my family. The most important part in our relationships is the understanding of the diversity. Accepting the differences and seeing the uniqueness is most important to us. Even though we are working parents, we are always there for our children. The children also know that they can call any of the parents and they are going to be safe with them.

The ways in which each relationship is positive and factors that contributed to developing and maintaining each relationship...
At the work place, we keep open communication lines regarding life, work, children and much more. We have each others back. We remind each other about what is coming, what is due. We cover for each other in case of an emergency. It is the understanding of our strengths, weaknesses and positive interactions that is very important to us. Understanding diversity is an important factor at work as well since we are serving a diverse community and we have a diverse community at work as well. Trusting each other, keeping the priorities in order, understanding and valuing each other are contributing factor as well.   

    Insights regarding challenges to developing and maintaining relationships that I have learned from my experience over time....
Personal biases are a huge challenge when it comes to developing and maintaining relationships. Especially, when it comes to a person from another culture, I have to admit that developing relationships are not always easy. But I do believe I am quick to get the clues regarding whether people are open minded or not and I do move on. Finding time is another barrier. As family, work and school take over my days, it is tough to find time. But most of my friends do understand the circumstances as these issues are very common in most of their lives as well. Keeping up with relationships are hard, sometimes it is better to give space and move on and let the other person watch from the side,. I always try to understand who I am comfortable with and then build the relationship from there on. My personal experiences give me the opportunity to understand the unwillingness or frustrations of the families that I work with. I try my best to get them comfortable with the program and the classroom first, as I know how I felt leaving my child at pre-school for the first time.   

Special characteristics of the relationships... 
  A special characteristic of all the partnerships that I have is a relationship of kindness and willingness to understand. I do look different and speak different but that does not say who I am. They put time and effort to understand who I am and what I stand for. They taught me plenty about the life in America. They have shown me again and again that they care about the well being of my family and me. This is a common factor in my personal and professional relationships.  
     My experiences with relationships/partnerships, including my ability to be an active, reflective contributor, impact my work as an effective early childhood professional..
As I am working in a very diverse community, my own experiences have guided me in so many ways. One of those is the relationship building. I am pleased with the relationships that I have developed with the families that I work with.  I am not saying that it is easy, but it is less complicated when the basic understanding is already there. I do try to make parents understand that their knowledge of the child is important to the teachers and that their contribution to the program and to their child’s education is highly appreciated. Moreover, I try to get the families involved in decision making regarding their child’s education as well as the policies and standards of the program. I truly believe that family’s involvement in their child’s education has an impact on the child and the family. My involvement with my child’s pre-school education is the biggest reason behind me becoming an early childhood educator.

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Quotes about Children

Princess Diana, Princess of Wales "Hugs can do great amounts of good — especially for children."

John F. Kennedy President of United States
A child miseducated is a child lost.

Garrison Keillor
Nothing you do for children is ever wasted. They seem not to notice us, hovering, averting our eyes, and they seldom offer thanks, but what we do for them is never wasted.


Give Love to the Children

Give Love to the children, Children need love everyday
Give love to the children Guide them on their way
Love's like a burning flame consumes all that stands in the way

Love is the only power on earth to take all the hatred away
GIVE LOVE TO THE CHILDREN set the children free
To make their own decisions then they will clearly see
Love is the sun the moon and the stars love is a golden ring

Love is the one thing the whole world desires be it beggar or king
GIVE LOVE TO THE CHILDREN youth has not long to stay
Love is a long term investment the best you will find any day

Love like the rising sun takes all the darkness away
Our children will tell their children and their children will say
Give love to the children they are our crock of gold
and if perchance they ever stray they will come back to the fold

Give love to the children the children of today
Give love to the children and love will come to stay.
Elizabeth Quinn


Dear Colleagues of 6160,
End of another great course.
Learnt a lot and time start the next.
Thank you for the wonderful communications and wish every one all the best on your journey!
    Some words to remember on the way…


Quotes for the Educators:
“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter”
      Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Baptist minister and civil rights activist


“Be the change that you want to see in the world.”
     Mohandas Gandhi, political and spiritual leader in India.


"Safety and security don't just happen; they are the result of collective consensus and public investment. We owe our children, the most vulnerable citizens in our society, a life free of violence and fear” 
     Nelson Mandela, former president of South Africa 


“You and I have a rendezvous with destiny. We will preserve for our children this, the last best hope of man on earth, or we will sentence them to take the first step into a thousand years of darkness. If we fail, at least let our children and our children's children say of us we justified our brief moment here. We did all that could be done”
   
Reagan, Ronald

“Life doesn't count for much unless you're willing to do your small part to leave our children – all of our children – a better world. Even if it's difficult. Even if the work seems great. Even if we don't get very far in our lifetime.”
     Barack Obama

“No problem can be solved by the same consciousness that created it. We need to see the world anew.”
     Albert Einstein

“Insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting the different results”
     Albert Einstein

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Testing for Intelligence?


For me this is a tough topic to take a stand and write a blog on. When I was going to school in Sri Lanka, from first grade on I had tests. They were unit tests, term tests, and year end tests. Year end tests were to decide whether the child has grasped what was taught throughout the year. At fifth grade all the children across the nation were tested on a national test on the same day, at the same time. Subjects were on languages and mathematics. Then, the same routine went on till tenth grade. At tenth grade all the children of the nation went through a national examination for days. This examination helped with the decision making, regarding the future university education path. University education was and still is totally free and getting in to a university is tough. If you can not make it to a university there are other options. I agree it was stressful, but we did not have a choice, and education was the number one priority and it is still the same. All the national exams are created by the department of education, the term tests are created by the provincial government, and unit tests are done by the schools on their own. Thinking back and analyzing all the opportunities that we had, I cannot blame the system. We even got the opportunity to come to the United State because of the education we received from Sri Lanka. I think, the system is still the same and much tougher. The expectations were clear, parents were involved and dedicated and it turned in to a family affair for thirteen years and beyond. Music, art, performance, as well as sports and chess are part of the curriculum as well. There are many international education systems that are in-place in Sri Lanka operated by the private sector.

My personal view is that there has to be a way to decide whether the teaching methods are effective and whether the children are grasping what is being taught. Every child has their own style of learning and the fear of tests is unavoidable. Educational field has to come up with different assessment systems and have to keep up with them to have a better understanding of what is going on. There should be a way of looking at the whole child and understanding that every child is unique and have the potential for a brighter future. It is the responsibility of educators, parents as well as policy makers to open up all the possibilities for the children.

I read about the 1970’s and 1980’s holistic education movement. John Dewey, Maria Montessori, Rudolf Steiner and many others were considered as the pioneers of the movement. Every child is more than a future employee; every person’s intelligence and abilities are far more than the score on a stranded test seems to be the base. Helping children to find their identity, meaning and purpose in life by connecting to the community, nature, and spiritual values like compassion and peace created the love of learning. When it comes to special needs; accommodating differences and refusing the labeling is the method. There are few public schools, alternative schools and many home schooling families who are inspired by this attitude towards teaching and schooling.




When I read articles, on the subject of holistic assessment for the school age children, I came upon an interesting article on Singapore’s plans to support the development of the whole child and to do some careful planning towards it. They are gearing towards accomplishing this goal by 2016 in primary schools. Singapore is one of the nations in Asia that has the education and technology hand in hand. In 1998 -1999 they had a plan to let every high school child to have a personal laptop computer. It really interested me to read about the changes in attitude towards the education.  I posted the article below for everyone to have an idea.


Saturday, January 29, 2011

Stress on Children’s Development



Growing up in a developing country I have seen how resilient children are and how they face life with courage and grow up to be successful adults. There were two families who lived in my grandfather’s property.  They were living there for three generations. First generation was helping my grandfather with his property and with few cows he had. It was a man and his wife and their six children. All six children went to school and in the evening they helped their parents. They worked in the vegetable garden, herding cows, collecting coconuts and doing simple household chores. They grew up with my mother and siblings. They played together and my uncles were their tutors. When they were adults, they moved out of the village and moved in to the city to start their own lives. Their father, mother and a sister stayed back.

The sister got married and lived in the same house, where her parents lived in my grandfather’s property. She and her husband had two children. They did not work for my family or my uncles’ families but they both worked in the town. Children were raised by the grandparents during the day time.

Out of the two children, one was closer to my age and the other one was closer to my sister’s age. Everyday after school they came to my parent’s house and they waited for us. They were always ready to do anything to help around but mostly they were there for the meals. When my sister and I got home, we all ate lunch. Then we did homework together. My parents were talking to these children the same way they spoke to us about the education. It was expected of them as well as us. Their parents faced a really rough road financially and as a family. They ended up taking their own routes. But, before that, there were many fights arguments and abuse. Children went through a many fearful nights and a number of financial struggles.

After the father left the family, financial issues really hit them. My parents took care of the two children a lot. Their meals, clothes and books for school were taken care of as much as possible by my parents. It was not easy for my parents but they did it. The two children had to show good grades, that was a must with my parents. At one point their mother moved to the capital Colombo for a better job. Children struggled a lot at that time. My parents did not want the children to be a part of child labor market and to give up on education.  My parents care, love of education kept them going. Their mother got married again had another child but it changed life for the older two children. My sister and I went to college and they both went to technical colleges. They both got jobs, got married, and today they both are living in the capitol, Colombo with their own families. Their youngest brother works overseas.

When I read the blog assignment, this came to my mind as this is something happened while growing up but still it has a spot in my heart for what my parents did. When I go back to Sri Lanka I still get to see them and talk about those days. I thought this is something worth sharing as it has a personal meaning to me.

I chose child labor issue in India and Sri Lanka. There are situations regarding child labor happening in Sri Lanka. It mostly happens due to the poverty in rural parts of the country. There are laws against it but not much successful in rural Sri Lanka. It is not a massive problem similar to some other parts of Asia. But it is something against the rights of a child. Most of the children work in agricultural workforce afterschool. They are their parents helping hands. Sometimes boys work in stores as helpers or sales personal. But for the girls it is different. Sometime they have to leave home and be a domestic helper for a family in a city. Children are not commonly involved in factory workforce. In Sri Lanka, poverty and lack of parental education are the major reasons for this situation. Due to the war activities that took place in the northern part of Sri Lanka, there were huge complaints regarding Child Soldiers in that area. As the war is over now these children are having a hard time finding work or getting use to a regular lifestyle.


It is a totally different situation in certain parts of India. The factories move in to the villages to find cheap labor. They get parents and children to work for the same factory. The working conditions are in reality hazardous, and toxic. Children working in firework factories and matchstick factories have to breathe in the toxic materials. Carpet making, as well as garment factories are very common in India as well. Most of the times, children are away from their homes. They are working and living at the same place, for a very small amount of money. These children are not getting fed much nutritional food. They work long days for very small amount of money.  They are exhausted due to long work hours and malnutrition. Government is trying to take care of the situation but there is not much success yet. The reason behind it is that most of this is taking place in far away places from the cities and towns. In rural villages this situation is not uncommon as this has being going on for generations. It has turned in to a common practice to get children’s help to improve family finances and no one complains about it. At the same time, this issue is not some thing that is taking place only in Sri Lanka or India. This is a common struggle in Asia, Africa, and South America as well as in all the other developing countries around the world. Even as a child, I did not like the idea of making children work for money, so they can help their families. It is still disturbing to me to see that this is taking place in the country that I grew up in. I hope the situation will change soon for the better.
       

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Saturday, January 15, 2011

Child Development and Public Health



The area I chose under the public health umbrella is Nutrition and Malnutrition.  Nutrition, hunger, obesity, and malnutrition are very well used words of the public health sector these days. A baby needs good nutrition to stay healthy and grow healthy. Baby’s nutrition plays a major part in the brain development, the learning skills, as well as the effective functioning of different systems of the human body.

For the first four months of the life, a baby totally depends on the breast milk or formula. Then around four to six months of age, a baby is ready to start on solid food. By the first birthday, a healthy baby should be able to handle the foods that rest of the family eats. This is the average developmental routine of a growing baby. But there are more possibilities for change and differences from this norm.

When it comes to malnutrition, the simple explanation is that the children do not get age appropriate amount of calories. Malnutrition is the reason for a brain to not develop normally. Preventive diseases can be lethal for a malnourished child.  Marasmus is a disease that starts during the prenatal months. It basically stops the growth of the baby and eventually death happens. Kwashiorkor is another disease that happens due to the malnutrition after age one.
As an early-childhood educator, nutrition facts as well as malnutrition facts matter to me as I work with the children who are in both categories. Children are checked by their physicians before they come to the program regarding height, weight and other development factors, iron levels and toxic levels. The teachers have to measure weight and height and track the BMI numbers two times a year. So these facts are very important for me have a better understanding.


Combination of malnutrition and infections is the leading reason behind the death among the children of the developing countries.  For the nutrition and malnutrition topic from a different part of the world, I chose Tibet in Central Asia. It is the plateau of Central Asia and some calls it as the roof of the world. Situated north of Himalayas, two major neighboring countries are India and China. Economy of the country is mainly agriculture and tourism (recently much popular). It is one of the developing counties in the Central Asia worldly known especially for His Holiness Dalai Lama. After the Chinese government entering in 1951 Tibet is not an independent nation any more. Tibet is a very agricultural country, but having to face many difficulties regarding nutrition currently.  Tibet consists of urban area population, farming population and nomadic population. Most urban areas are sufficient with food and so called junk food as well. In the farming communities, they have access to meat, vegetables, fruits and milk. But with new laws they have to pay more taxes. In order to do that, they have to sell more crops. Selling more crops or meat always below the market price leaves much less for the family to survive. People are always trying to pay dues accordingly as they are in fear of the government. Nomadic families have to face the situation of following government rule of limited number of killing of their animals to sell and paying more money as taxes. Nomadic life style gives them less access to vegetables and fruits as well.  Less money in hand means limited opportunity to fulfill nutritional needs of the families.


These reasons have created plenty of health difficulties for the growing children as well as adults in Tibet. Physical and mental developments of hundreds of thousands of children are threatened by malnutrition. Recent findings show that Tibetan children’s short height does not have any connection to the high altitude of the nation or genetics of the population. It is all due to malnutrition. Vitamin D deficiency is the biggest reason behind it. Diarrhea and pneumonia are also two very common fetal diseases of growing children in the Tibet. Due to living hardships lots of Tibetan people are leaving their country to India and Nepal as refugees. This is just one situation that is happening in one country, but this represent what is going on with most developing countries in the world and how it affects the children of those nations.

http://www.terma.org/shambhalasun052004.pdf

http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJM200102013440504
http://www.terma.org/NEW%20Media.html